|Texas man mentors boys through Big Brothers
Dale Long and "little brother" LaDaruss Douglas tour the
African-American Museum in Dallas. A United Methodist, Long has
volunteered with Big Brothers Big Sisters for 30 years. UMNS photos by
By John Gordon*
June 14, 2007 | DALLAS, Texas (UMNS)
Long gives former little brother Pierre Rhodes, who is now a college student, a photo showing the two on an outing.
Dale Long believes a boy needs a father figure—a role model—while
he's growing up. And Long has filled that role for more than three
decades as a volunteer for Big Brothers Big Sisters.
"These kids are everywhere. Grandmothers are raising kids now," says Long, a public information officer for the city of Dallas.
"Our young people are our future. And in order for our young men, especially, to be men, they’ve got to see a man."
Mentoring six "little brothers" over the years, Long was named
national Big Brother of the year in 1989 and was invited to the White
House to meet then-President George H.W. Bush.
Long also made it his personal mission to recruit 10,000 volunteers to the program.
He signs up "big brothers" at his church, Hamilton Park United
Methodist in Dallas, and through United Methodist Men’s groups. And Long
travels across the United States to spread the word about Big Brothers
at meetings of his college fraternity, Alpha Phi Alpha.
"I’ll talk to anyone who will listen," he says. "I tell my stories. I
tell of the excitement that young people have when there’s someone that
cares about them."
Long has plenty of stories to tell—taking his "littles" on fishing
trips, to movies and church services, on outings to museums and errands
to stores, and countless other activities. He is now a big brother to
LaDaruss Douglas, a 15-year-old with autism.
"It was a little bit different for me, little scary at first. But we are good buddies," says Long.
"Our young people are our future. And in order for our young men, especially, to be men, they've got to see a man." -Dale Long
"I’ve taught him some of the things that he needs to do in dealing with his special needs. He’s taught me patience."
LaDaruss’ mother, Pamela Nwachukw, considers Long part of her family.
"He’s been very helpful to my son in a lot of ways, helping him to be
more sociable," she says. "I’ve seen where he’s made a very big
Long grew up in Birmingham, Ala., where the racial strife and
violence of the '50s and '60s helped to shape his life. He admired civil
rights leader the Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr.
"I had the awful experience of … being a victim in the 1963 bombing
of 16th Street Church in Birmingham," says Long, who was a friend of the
four girls killed in the bombing. "We were actually three or four rooms
down from each other. Sometimes I go the extra mile in their honor, to
do the things that they didn’t get a chance to do."
Long became a big brother in 1974 after he graduated from college and
went to work in Houston for a contractor on NASA’s space shuttle
program. A fraternity brother had suggested he volunteer.
He agreed to give it a try, taking 7-year-old Keith Farmer to see a Houston Astros baseball game.
"He kept asking me, 'Mr. Long, are you going to be my big brother
forever?'" recalls Long. "At that point, I wasn’t quite sure. But by the
end of the day, I was convinced that’s what I wanted to do."
Long later moved to Dallas and joined Hamilton Park after another Big
Brothers volunteer asked him to come to the church and share his
experiences. Long’s wife, Ellen, recently signed up to become a big
sister after the couple’s two daughters enrolled in college.
Long has kept in touch with most of his former littles—and takes pride
in their accomplishments. Some are now college students or raising
families of their own. All have stayed out of trouble. "I’d like to
believe that I played an important role in that happening and being
there for them," he says.
Long, daughter Amber, wife Ellen and little brother LaDaruss worship at Hamilton Park United Methodist Church in Dallas.
Pierre Rhodes, 25, is one of Long’s former littles who now attends college.
"When you come from a single-parent home and you don’t … get to know
who your father is, you don’t get to know a male role model," says
Rhodes. "No matter how hard your mother tries, there are some things she
just can’t teach you."
For Long, the reward is seeing the changes in young lives.
"The prize," he says, "is when you know that they’ve grown up and not
become a statistic—when they have a diploma in their hand instead of
*Gordon is a freelance producer and writer based in Marshall, Texas.
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