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Commentary: A lesson from my daughter

A UMNS Commentary
By the Rev. Linda E. Thomas*

Jan. 14, 2009


The Rev. Linda E. Thomas

I was born in Baltimore in 1956. My mother, Mary Jeross Thomas, gave birth to me at Johns Hopkins Hospital, a world-class institution even then. My father, Henry Richmond Thomas II, served in World War II in Germany. My father died on April 4, 1971, too young at age 49.

Much of his adult life he worked at Bethlehem Steel Corp. in Sparrows Point, Md. While employed there, he developed emphysema and, to make matters worse, he had asthma and smoked cigarettes. At his funeral, our family was presented with an American flag because of my dad's service to our country. My mother received the flag with my sisters and brother standing behind her.

Subsequent to my mother's death and after my siblings and I sold our family home, I received that American flag. Most of my life, I have understood that I lived in the United States of America, but I was not proud of that fact. To be honest, I carried wounds of my people's past—slavery, Jim Crow, racism. I also had experienced discrimination myself. 

It was clear to me that although I believed I was created in God's image, my being black, female and competent was a problem for some citizens and institutions of this country.

If this country was a democracy and all people were created equal as the Constitution stated, then why was my family not treated equally in our hometown of Turner Station and other places? Why did I have to appreciate being in America even though my ancestors were brought (one could say bought) here involuntarily? Why? Why did I have so much resentment and residual anger?

Last week, I took my little girl, Dora Linda, to a shop in Hot Springs, Ark. The shop had many wonderful things, such as nutcrackers, white wicker hampers, lemonade sets and American flags. Of all the things in the store, Dora Linda was most ecstatic and beside herself with joy when she saw the row of American flags. There were big flags, little flags and medium-size flags.

She picked up several by their sticks and began to wave them and jump up and down. While doing these gymnastics, she had a brilliant smile on her face! My, oh my, how her face shone! She was happy, and I couldn't help but be happy too.

This event—I must call it a drama—was a case of the child teaching the parent a lesson. After all, why shouldn't a child, an African-American girl, who lives a distinctly different history from that of her parents and grandparents, not jump up and down with happiness, waving American flags of all sizes?

At age 8, hadn't she seen and experienced the campaign and election of Barack Obama? Had she not seen Michelle Obama taking Malia and Sasha to the same school she attended? Hadn't she been in Grant Park the night he was elected? Hadn't she been at Trinity United Church of Christ in Chicago the Sunday following his election and witnessed the powerful joy of a congregation that believed that Barack coming to accept Christ in its church changed the course of the history of the world? Why then would she do anything else besides smile, wave flags and be jubilant?

My daughter taught me a lesson last week, and so, on Jan. 20, 2009, when Barack Obama is sworn in as the 44th president of the United States of America, I will unfold that precious American flag, given to my mother in honor of my father's service to this country and passed on to me. The lesson that my daughter taught me is why I will unfold the flag that draped my father's casket, unfold it for the first time since it was given to my mother in 1972, and fly it. 

Like my 8-year-old daughter, Dora Linda, I am going to jump up and down. I am going to shout and be happy because I, too, am American and now I genuinely love my country. All the pain from the past is not removed, but I am now proud to be American for the first time in my life, and that is because the citizens of this country elected Barack Obama who will be inaugurated President Obama on Jan. 20, 2009.

*Thomas, Ph.D., is professor of theology and anthropology at the Lutheran School of Theology in Chicago. She is an ordained United Methodist.

News media contact: Kathy L. Gilbert, Nashville, Tenn., (615) 742-5470 or newsdesk@umcom.org.

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